Monday, April 16, 2012

Passport to Purity...YIKES!!! LOL

I purchased the Passport to Purity a year ago planning to do it last year but prayed about it and just didn't have peace. This weekend My Beautiful One (12) and I went on an out of town trip which lended itself as a PERFECT opportunity to do it. I'm SOOO glad we did!!!

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Basically, I did the book and projects as listed but the layout was a bit different. I could NEVER see us heading to a weekend get away and sitting for hours in our destination place to listen to much of the things Dennis &Barabra Rainey had to say so I tweeked the layout to fit our own style. It's MUCH easier listening while driving so we did all of the listening and projects "on the road"...so to speak. :)

In the Passport to Purity layout you are suppose to listen to topic 1 on the way to your destination and then do the project when you get there with listening to topic 2 and doing another project before bed time. The next day, you're suppose to listen to the next 2 topics and do those project lessons and listen to the final topic on the way home.

Here's how we did it: Our destination was 4 hours away which provided ample amount of time for listening and project lessons on the road. God is so good to provide either an exit or rest stop at each topic ending.

We listened to topic 1 "Blastoff", stopped at a rest stop and did our "Puzzled" project which consisted of her doing a puzzle out of a bag without a box and me doing a puzzle with a box to look at and seeing who could get more of the puzzle put together in 5 minutes...the only rule was that no one could say anything to each other. At the end of the 5 minutes she said "I didn't have a box to look at"...lol, that was the goal, to show how we can't live life without the Bible as our guide/direction.

This first project came with issuing a "prize".

We took a small break and listened to one of her Adventures in Odyessey's then continued on to Topic 2 which was "Running with the Herd". Running with the Herd is symbolic to running with good/bad crowds. The project lesson "dirty Water" for this was clean water which was my daughter who is living her life for Christ and coffee grounds/dirt which is bad/negative friends/influences and how dirty/murky they can mess up your life.

This was it for 2 days and I was really getting nervous because I knew the next talk would be the "BIG - Birds & Bees" talk...yikes!!! She was saying that when we drove home she was looking forward to listening to her Adventures in Odyessey or watching the new movie that she brought...ugh - I knew I was going to face opposition with some of this as I think she knew what was coming. Thankfully, I told her we'd alternate the cd's as we did on the way down but had to make sure we finished our Passport to Purity cd's on the trip home.

On Sunday we headed home and we started the trip out with an Adventures in Odyessey so I could navigate my way to the main highway and then start the "big" talk. :)

The third topic was "Growing to (blank) maturity" which came with the "Burned up" project showing how you can only give yourself away 1 time and how we need to stay in Christ and not let anyone light our fire for us to get "burned up".

The fourth topic was "Staying Pure" and had a "Leaky Balloon" project meaning when you kiss and other things, you give parts of yourself way and "leak" what should have been for your future husband.

The final (5th) topic was "It's a Date" with an "All Glued Up" project...this was 6 pieces of paper, two not glued and could be swipped together back and forth and not have any harm. The next 2 became glued together with dots of spending time alone with a boy, chatting on the internet, kissing, dating, etc. these two can be separated after a short time - they are not destroyed but still messed up with glue and possibly stain from the other sheet. The last 2 pieces were glued together earlier and were impossible to be separated - these signify an "exclusive" relationship that is meant to be with your future spouse.

I have to COMMEND the Rainey's for the projects that they put with these topics...they were all great and alot of fun to help the point of the topic to stick in our minds. I am SO thankful that we did this...it was a wonderful trip and time together!!!

It's recommended at the end of the weekend you meet dad for a nice dinner and present the child with a token like a purity ring or necklace. We met my husband at a great restraurant in a neighboring town.

Signing the Passport to Purity Contract

Showing off her purity ring

I just wanted to get these points down for my own review and inspire anyone thinking about doing the Passport to Purity, hopefully this doesn't infrindge on any copyright information.

6 comments:

BARBIE said...

Sounds like it turned out wonderfully. My 12yo daughter and I will be doing a weekend getaway later in June. Thanks for sharing!

Tawanna Shantelle said...

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! We are planning to do this with our kids. We are a little late but better late than never! Your daughter is beautiful!

Unknown said...

I have purchased the materials needed for the P to P weekend. we have a 12 year old daughter and an (almost) 11 year old daughter. would you advise doing the "getaway" separately or could I do it with both girls in one weekend? thoughts?

Kim said...

I think you could do both girls unless you want more of a bonding with each of them seperately...so sorry to just be getting back to you!

5W5 said...

I would recommend anyone interested in the topic and teachings of purity to look into Elizabeth Smart's comments on the subject. If you recall, Elizabeth Smart was the girl kidnapped from her home and sexually abused for several weeks before she was discovered. Many wondered why she had not tried to escape her captors sooner. She later revealed that her family's religious teachings regarding sexual purity led to her feeling worthless and without value after her sexual assault. She had grown to understand that without sexual purity, she was dirty and value-less. She now speaks out against these kind of faith-based purity teachings.

I would also suggest that parents consider that their teen and adult children need to choose their own religious and moral beliefs. Of course we can set rules for our children, but at some point those children become adults and are responsible for their own choices and values. A child - especially a girl - should be taught that they have agency over their own bodies. Not even mom and dad control their bodies. They are receiving enough daily messages about the public's right to their body and their sexuality; at home should not be another place they're told this.

Anonymous said...

5W5 you should probably look into what the passport to purity lessons really say before you make any judgement. I think that it is possible that Elizabeth's parents may have been a little over the edge in there teaching of purity. Teaching purity is not a bad thing, it is just HOW you teach it that can be bad.

 
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